Since the bomb shell of the changes coming to my blog I not really had any time to write a new post.

So here on the third day of February, for me February is the middle of my year (Augest the 28th is my birthday), the time of when I think of rebirth. Today I had a talk with a friend (or should I say a former friend now).Just before new year we had just finished our mocks me and a few class went into a pub called the White Hart which is near by the college in Waterloo.

I saw a friend I had not seen in ages and we talked (no I not giving the name of the former friend!). I sat down and talked when one of the friend's class mate's invited to a party. The friend told me I could not come (and this is what I would not have said) as an acquaintance who was a close friend was coming I naggied about it and they sent a text. They then rudly shouted the reply to the rest of the room. This greatly embarrassed as well as upsetting me I told them what I through of their friend and they said they did not want to get involved in the dispute.

I told one of their friends who had not been there at the time what happened. Me and this 'friend' did not talk for two months till to nigth. When they in capital letters insulted me online and told me that I had made them look bad in front of their 'friends'.

After shutting down my MSN to get ride of them they then at three o'clock in the morning sent me a text message which was even ruder than the messages they had on MSN my simple reply was 'I feel the same way'.

Maybe my behavior was terrible maybe I am a 'bitch' like they said or 'not cool' but those facts don't matter its how they acted. The one thing I am not is someone who does not speck their mind! I found that day that in fact they had never been a real friend they just cared how they looked and how people saw them as they could not answer a simple question? How does the other person feel.

And there is an additional point in the legal profession we will often have clients you can't tell everything to because it's not in their interest. I know for a fact my 'friend' cannot do that therefore their is a very slim chance of them being a successful lawayer as half of being a lawayer is being a people person and sometime you cannot and should not tell someone in other words you need to be able to you need to be able to empathize in other words you need to be up to understand how the other person feels. I have realized that this is one thing my friend missed and that is why so few of their own friends were mates they had had for more than two years, I know the within the rules the solicitor conduct booklet there are limits most notably rule two tells us that we need to tell our client about anything to do with their case but I still think that being a good lawyer being able to empathize with your client is extremely important and these are the three points I would always ask the solicitor to consider if they possibly can,(a) something they do not need to know, (b) something that will upset them and (c) something that will make them do somthing they reget!

And thats why I call February my rebirth every year the date is the 14th of February Valentine's Day!